Why do men move too fast in dating?
Ladies I blame us. Please hear me, there is no time limit, or rule book, or three date rule on when you should have sex with a man. First off dating does not equal sex.
Let the man ask you out, court you, get to know you, and show you a great time. I repeat… you don’t owe him a dam thing.
THE ART OF DATING IS GETTING LOST. I am a southern old school gal, and I was taught there are steps to properly creating a solid foundation when dating, starting with them taking the time to get to know you, date you, while you enjoy the process of spending time with each other.
To put my theories to the test I interviewed three (3) men to find out what’s going on in the world of dating for them. Here is what I found out.
SOCIAL MEDIA IS NOT HELPING WOMEN
1.) The men that I interviewed agreed that women are putting themselves out on social media platforms to much, sharing their personal business, issues and overly provaitive photos. Leaving little or nothing to the imagination.
STOP BEING DESPARATE
2.) The men agreedfemales past the age of 30 go on dates as if they are interviewing for a position. Willing to tell you how freaky they are, how good they are in bed, and what they will do to get and keep their man. He said this style of dating absolutely turns him off and makes females look desperate, as she brings down her own value by communicating about her love life, and her body in this manner of attempting she is good enough to date.
THE INTERNET IS NOT YOUR FRIEND
Ladies the internet and social media are making men believe that they actually know who we are changing how they approach you. Whenever I date a man I remove him from any social media profiles that we may be connected on, and or I make sure never to add him to any of my social media profiles. I don’t want a man trying to get to know me through the internet, or looking at photos attempting to assess what type of woman I am, or what type of mother I am. If you want to get to know me, do that. But trust me, you will never know me from looking at photos I post, or comments that I make. Half of the pictures I take are over one (1) week, to two (2) weeks old before I even put them up.
Don’t give a man that you dating access to your social media. If they want to get to know you have them do it the good old fasion way.
DON’T LET SEX TALK HAPPEN IF YOU DON’T WANT IT TO
It’s rude, childish, and tasteless for men to bring up sex, or sexual acts to women when you have not taken the time to get to know her. Fellas please allow the women in your life time to consider if you are a man that she would give her body to before you try to shove the conversation, and the actions into her life. Slow down. Everything gets better with time. You don’t need to know if a women gives good head on the first date, or if she’s had annul sex before. Really? It blows my mind some of the phone calls I get from women that I coach asking me what is going on with the men these days trying to move to fast sexually. And I can’t disagree because I’ve had men try to get me to Netflix and chill for our second date… Boy bye.
MEN LISTEN UP, it’s a total turn off when you jump right into a sexual conversation that know one asked you to start.
LADIES CLOSE YOUR LEGS, get some respect for yourself, and stop allowing verbal sexual conversations and fast sexual encounters that men are dishing out without taking the time to invest in your heart, spirit and life get you in bed.
Let me be clear, you don’t owe a man a dam thing but to show up looking gorgeous, smelling good, and having a great attitude about life.
Why do you think men are talking about and wanting sex to soon? What do you think we can do as women to make a difference? Let me know in the comments below.
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