Do nice guys really finish last? Some say YES! Dating a nice guy has it’s perks, lets find out what this SerriaSays.com reader has to say about dating “Mr. Nice”.
“I’m hoping you can help. I’ve dated a guy for 5 years that I left because of cheating. I’ve been single for 18 months or so and I still love him, I know it’s stupid. I’ve now met Mr. Nice Guy, he’s sweet, kind, has a decent job (I supported the ex). My problem is that I’m not feeling a strong attraction to him and my question is do I carry on seeing him and wait to see if feelings develop? Am I only ever going to be attracted to Losers? Should I give Mr Nice Guy a chance? I feel like he’s the kind of guy I want to be with, but why aren’t I feeling it?”
I understand, you are not the first woman who wished she loved a man who treated her well. I had a boyfriend for two years who was awesome and all my friends loved him but I knew I didn’t want to marry him. I saw my husband’s beautiful face across a crowded room, that got my attention, the way he is towards me, kept it and made him much more attractive. You must have balance and not sacrifice treatment for looks etc.
When I began to study women dating habits the first thing I noticed was the smart ones liked men who treated them well. That’s an awesome trait to have, and it’s learned behavior. You have to unlearn being attracted to men who don’t like you and don’t like themselves as much as they should.
I’m not pushing this nice guy on you because I think you should also have passion for the guy; besides just because he is nicer than the other guys you’ve dated doesn’t make him the best person for you. I think you are not sold on this fella and you need to keep dating until you find a guy who is nice, plus whatever else you like. At the same time reprogram yourself to become more attracted to a man as a result of his affection, admiration, actions and see him as a monster for his selfish, inconsiderate and immature acts.
I am ok with guys having to win girls over, I insist on it. The outcome in the other scenario is silly.
Follow these rules and don’t stress if you aren’t feeling the guy, there have been plenty of fellas who have dated you and weren’t feeling you either; it’s apart of being single.
- Date men with legal income. “Potential” past 25 is usually bull.
- Flirt all the time but only date guys who pursue you.
- Don’t force yourself to like anyone, there is no time clock on your love; relax.
- Only date men who are gentlemen, anything else is a stressful death waiting to happen.
Nice guys aren’t angels and some wear that “nice” act to hide their bad intentions. Let me tell you what many nice guys do; they date out of their range and then lead on the girls they should date with that nice guy act. Don’t lose sleep over not liking him, either the feelings will happen or they won’t, and either way, you are fine.
Women who are turned on by good treatment date wealthy men who spoil them. When you are in that situation it’s easy to fall in love with the guy, but the cons usually outweigh the pros as we see in the media, you aren’t for sale but you aren’t stupid either.
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